As you probably know if you’ve been around here long, I’m a pretty open book when it comes to sharing all my blogging “secrets.” I share both my successes and failures in hopes that they will help you. Today is no exception.
I'll be sharing some lies I tell myself about blogging. I imagine many of you might telling yourselves something similar. Here’s the first lie I tell myself about growing an online business: I’m not good enough. That’s how I often feel. It seems like someone else takes the most beautiful photos of their planners, so my lame attempt at photography could never be good enough. All the popular Instagram planner accounts have the most beautiful handwriting and mine is not so pretty, so why even bother posting my planner pics? The list goes on.
Here’s the next lie I tell myself that is closely related (and, I promise, I’ll be sharing some solutions and we’ll definitely end this post on a positive note!): I’ll finally feel confident and good enough and it will all be easier when . . . When I first started my blog, I thought I was feeling wildly under confident because I had no blogging experience and no proof yet that I could be a successful blogger. I was sure that when I was finally making a few hundred dollars a month, I would have proven to myself that I could do it and I’d feel more confident. I also imagined that all those bloggers I admired who had tons of readers always felt confident.
Here’s the thing. When I finally did start making a few hundred dollars a month, I still didn’t feel very confident. Maybe that success was just a fluke. I was only making a couple hundred each month when lots of people were making thousands a month. Naturally, I thought I’d finally feel more confident when I hit the $1,000/month mark or maybe when I hit 100,000 pageviews/month. Well, of course, when I got there, I had all kinds of reasons why I felt under confident and tons of people were still way more successful than I was. You can probably guess the rest of the story. Even if you’re making six figures a month, there will be somebody making 7. Once you hit a million pageviews month, you’ll be striving for 2 million. It never ends.
Here’s the thing. Success itself won’t automatically make you feel confident. There’s nothing magical about making five figures or six figures or even seven figures that will make you feel confident. There’s nothing wrong with setting goals, striving to meet them, and improving, but there is something wrong with thinking that is what you need to bring you confidence. Plus, having confidence NOW will help you meet your goals faster.
Confidence comes from telling yourself the truth. Here are the truths that I’m working on internalizing:
It’s okay to “fail.” Go ahead and give it a try. The worst that can happen is that it doesn’t work out. Are you thinking of starting a blog? Go ahead and start. If you blog for a few months and find out it’s not really your thing, that’s totally fine. Are you thinking of a creating your own product but are nervous about putting your work out there? Go ahead and do it. The worst case is that no one will buy it and you’ll move on.
It’s okay to feel uncertain and scared when you do something new. Even the most successful people feel that way. Just keep going anyway.
I may not be “good enough,” but God is. He can give me whatever talents, abilities, and success or failure that he wants me to have.
Practicing stepping outside your comfort zone is one of the best ways to expand it.
Now is the time to go do all those things you know you’d do if you were really successful.
Here is a recent scope I did on this topic that I'd love your thoughts on.
Is this something you've struggled with? How have you overcome confidence doubts? Let's have a conversation in the comments below!
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