The Secret No One Tells You About Organizing
Since you’re here and reading this post, I’m going to guess that you’re interested in home organization and enjoy learning tactics and strategies you can apply in your own home to have better time management skills and less clutter. And, big surprise, I love reading articles about that kind of stuff too!
But in all the articles I’ve read and videos I’ve watched, there’s one thing I’ve never heard anyone talk about. And today, I just want to start the conversation on this topic, because I think it’s important. Click below if you want to watch the video!
Put simply, getting organized will not solve all your problems.
Now, hear me out. There are so many benefits to having an organized, decluttered home. It’s a great feeling to wake up in the morning and walk into a clean kitchen, and it certainly decreases stress when you have systems in place so you know that the bills are getting paid.
But as wonderful as all of that is (and it truly is wonderful!) it will not solve all of your problems. And I know that, because while I myself am pretty organized, I still have difficulties and problems in my life and even in my home.
Now there are people out there who decluttered their entire house in a week and have amazing testimonies about how it transformed their home and lives. And I’m not doubting that! I have every reason to believe those people are telling the truth and that their lives were truly transformed.
Decluttering is a Process
But for a lot of us, decluttering is a process, and getting organized is something that happens slowly over time. We set up systems little by little to manage our time better, but even with all of the progress, there are still times where we feel unsettled or unfulfilled. So if you’ve been getting more and more organized but have realized that everything hasn’t become magically better, I want you to know that that is okay and you are not alone. In fact, you’re incredibly normal! I would wager that most women have a similar experience.
Here’s one of the reasons I think this happens. Getting organized and clearing out the clutter is a wonderful thing, and it can be an aid in so many areas of your life. But having an organized home doesn’t mean I’ll never be grumpy with my kids again or I'll always eat nutritious meals. There are likely other changes and goals you want to achieve in your life other than just decluttering and getting organized, and those goals are going to require a bit of extra effort.
Adapt to What You Can't Control
Another reason this happens is because when it comes to decluttering and organizing, we are talking about the very small sphere of things that you personally can control, and it is wonderful to do the best you can with what you can control! But, at the end of the day, there is still so much that you and I cannot control and simply must adapt to as best we can.
Now, I don’t say all of this to suggest that we all throw in the towel and give up on organizing our homes. Not at all! I believe that cultivating good habits at home can spill into other areas of your life and help you build good habits in your relationships and achieve other goals you have for yourself.
Realistic Expectations
But the moral of the story here is: let’s have realistic expectations. If you’ve gotten organized but still feel that there’s more you want to do and accomplish in your life, you haven’t done it wrong. In fact, you’ve likely done it right!
Here’s to always taking the next upward step!
Maureen McGillick Says
Laura, I loved this post and I think it is so important to put this out there. Well done girlie! Thank you.
shoshana Says
this is a very important post, thank you so much for writing it. it’s not only organization that makes us think, now everything will be wonderful, but your idea of do what you can and learn to embrace the rest really is wonderful.
Susan Says
So many sites claim that by decluttering your office, paper, drawers in your kitchen or bedroom, all will be well. This is one step in a very involved life change—- baby steps and deep breathes help. Time helps as well- spell it out in your journal, it helps as well. I think you are correct by reminding people, this is not the cure all but a helpful aid..
Thank you
Linda Says
Laura,
You are a blessing to many. Thanks for all you do!
Ryn Rupprecht Says
Thank you, Laura, good advice. That makes a lot of sense.
Sandy Says
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Thanks!
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